Your Wants: Resolution Busters and Possibility Thieves

It’s not quite the end of January and many are already falling off the change bandwagon.  

The culprit.  Their wants.  See many people start the new year wanting a new beginning.  They want to do things differently.  They want to make big changes that will lead to lasting transformation.  They really, really want to do these things. 

And they also want:

  • to sleep in an extra five minutes. 
  • the sweet dessert.
  • the closeness of the partner they know is not good for them.  
  • the familiarity of the situation they have become accustomed to.
  • the one last (insert bad habit here) before they change.

The signal to noise ratio in the land of wants is too low.  Little tiny voice of the heart’s desire for change against the collective cacophony of distracting noise that is the tiny voices of billions of other wants clamoring for attention.  Too much static not enough sweet song of freedom. Too many competing wants trying to snatch up the precious crumbs of our time, energy, and attention.  Enter - dukkha, stuckness, (yuck) compounded by guilt and shame (double yuck).  A triple decker dookie sandwich created by our wants.  Blech!

When we frame our heartfelt desires and soul calling for true transformation merely as wants, we set ourselves up for failure.  It’s not our fault.  It’s a language and thinking trap.  It’s a brutal world the Land of Wants.  The wants that have been fed the most become big strong bullies smacking the new wants around and stealing their lunch money. Our possibilities are stolen before our very eyes without our even noticing.  

The antidote is to exercise our powers of honesty and choice.  First, honesty.  We tune into what we honestly desire for our own health, wellness, and well-being.  We align our hearts with a vision of who we are committed to becoming.  Not who we want to become — who we are committed to becoming.  We let that vision sink in, “I’m committed to becoming (insert vivid pictures of the you and the life you are actively creating from this moment forward).”  Why pictures?  Pictures trump words in the cognitive world.  It elevates your vision above the wants (the land of dookie).

Next, we leverage our power of choice.  In the morning, when the alarm goes off (or when we are preparing our next meal or when we are staring down the dessert tray or when our toxic relationship starts calling again) and all of our wants are clamoring away we choose the action that aligns with our vision.  ”Yes, I hear you wants.  And I choose to get out of bed in the service of becoming (insert vivid pictures of your most rockin’ self and most rockin’ life here).”  Then actively choose to take the next action toward that vision.  Throughout the day and week, when wants start to clamor away recall your vision of who you are becoming.  Let it become clear in your mind in vivid detail.  Focus on it.  Then take the next step toward it. Just take the next step.

Vision, honesty, and choice.  That’s how you rise above your wants.  That’s how you walk out of Dookieville.  One beautifully vivid committed step at a time.

To your becoming…  Sean


The Paradox of Living

In order to live a powerfully authentic life one must: embrace vulnerability, accept uncertainty, and at the same time endeavor to take 100% response-ability for one’s life regardless of the circumstances. How one navigates this dance defines not only one’s character but the adventure of one’s life.   


Powerful.  Beautiful.  Please let it inspire you.


This Is Your Life

Do what you love, and do it often.  If you don’t like something, change it.  If you don’t like your job, quit.  If you don’t have enough time, stop watching TV.  If you are looking for the love of your life, stop.  They will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love.  

Stop over analyzing.  Life is simple.  All emotions are beautiful.  When you eat, appreciate every last bite.  Open your mind, heart, and arms to new things and people.  We are united in our differences. 

Ask the next person you see what their passion is; and share your inspiring dream with them.  Travel often; getting lost will help you find yourself.  Some opportunities only come once - seize them.  

Life is about the people you meet and the things you create with them.  So go out and start creating.  Life is short.  Live your dream and share your passion.  

(from a sign I saw at a roadside diner today)


The Revolution Will Not Be Televised

I loved this, and wanted to share.  A poignant message for women and men during these difficult times. Namaste…Sean

The Revolution Will Not Be Televised, 2011

by Anne DeMarsay

On that day, sisters, you will not be able to stay at home,
Recording it on your TiVo while you check your Facebook wall and text your dinner reservations.
You will not be able to stream it from Hulu or Netflix.
It will not be available on demand in high-def at 1080p with the surround sound option,
Because the revolution will not be televised.

The revolution will not be televised.
The revolution will not be brought to you by talking heads on Fox News or CNN
In sound bites honed to fit between commercial breaks and match audience demographics,
With equal time for opposing views.
The revolution will not show you pictures of Sarah Palin singing “We Shall Overcome” as she serves in a Harlem soup kitchen, side by side with the Real Housewives of anywhere, while Michele Bachman weeps as she embraces a Latina office cleaner.
The revolution will not be televised.

The revolution will not be brought to you as a 13-part documentary produced and directed by Ken Burns and will not include a word from your sponsor, the oil company engineer walking along a Louisiana beach to show you how clean it is.
The revolution will not take ten years off your appearance with a miracle serum.
The revolution will not let you eat whatever you want and lose weight, or make you irresistible, sisters, because the revolution will not be televised.
There will be no pictures of diamond-clad blondes pouring champagne
from balconies above Zucotti Park,
No pictures of Eric Cantor condemning “mobs that pit American against American,”
in the instant replay.
There will be no on-the-scene interviews by Oprah Winfrey and Jon Stewart.
There will be no appearances on “The View” by the 99 Percent because on that day, they will be in the street organizing for jobs and justice.
The revolution will not be televised.

Step out, out of your virtual world, and greet your sisters:
The girl in the hijab, afraid to meet hatred in your eyes, whose bent mother leans on her arm.
The soldier whose set face and raised chin dare you to dismiss her, a woman of color,
until you drop your eyes to see the foot she left in Mosul.
The teacher whose island lilt belies her anger that her students live without light or food—not in her own Jamaica, but in the Bronx.
The revolution will not make you a Survivor, a Millionaire, or America’s Next Top Model.
The revolution will not give you an Extreme Home Makeover.
The revolution will bring you home.
The revolution will not be televised
will not be televised
will not be televised
will not be televised.
The revolution will be no re-run, sisters;
The revolution is live—now.


The Meaning Of Marriage

Married or not… you should read this.  Beautiful.  Touching.  Transformative. Namaste…Sean

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? 

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her! 

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. 

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. 

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. 

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. 

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. 

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. 

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. 

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. 

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. 

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. 

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. 

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. 

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. 

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband…. 

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! 

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you. 

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” 

(Source: nathanpersuasion) via Kaydee Kullberg-Brown


Another Vitamin Scare That’s More Hype than Science

Below is an article that should be read by all. Main stream media likes to
focus on science that appears to debunk the value of vitamins.
Unfortunately, unless you do your own research, you may walk away from the
vitamins and supplements that very well could keep you healthy for years to

Namaste… Sean

*Orthomolecular Medicine News Service, October 14, 2011*
Vitamin E Attacked Again
Of Course. Because It Works.

*by Andrew W. Saul*
Editor, Orthomolecular Medicine News Service

(OMNS, Oct 14, 2011) The very first Orthomolecular Medicine News Service
release was on the clinical benefits of vitamin E. That was seven years ago.
(1) In fact, the battle over vitamin E has been going full-tilt for over 60
years. (2)

Well, you can say one thing for vitamin critics: at least they are
consistent. Consistently wrong, but consistent.

A recent accusation against vitamin E is that somehow it increases risk of
prostate cancer. (3) That is nonsense. If you take close look at the
numbers, you will see that “Compared with placebo, the absolute increase in
risk of prostate cancer per 1000 person-years was 1.6 for vitamin E, 0.8 for
selenium, and 0.4 for the combination.” That works out to be a claimed 0.63%
increase risk with vitamin E alone, 0.24% increase in risk with vitamin E
and selenium, and 0.15% increase in risk for selenium alone.

Note the decimal points: these are very small figures. But more importantly,
note that the combination of selenium with vitamin E resulted in a much
smaller number of deaths. If vitamin E were really the problem, vitamin E
with selenium would have been a worse problem. Selenium recharges vitamin E,
recycling it and effectively rendering it more potent. Something is wrong
here, and it isn’t the vitamin E. Indeed, a higher dose of vitamin E might
work as well as E with selenium, and be more protective.

And, in fact, this study did show that supplementation was beneficial.
Vitamin E and selenium reduced risk of all-cause mortality by about 0.2%.,
and also reduced the risk of serious cardiovascular events by 0.3%. Vitamin
E reduced risk of serious cardiovascular events by 0.7%. But what you were
told, and just about all you were told, was “Vitamin E causes cancer!”

The oldest political trick in the book is to create doubt, then fear, and
then conformity of action. The pharmaceutical industry knows this full well.
One does not waste time and money attacking something that does not work.
Vitamin E works, and the evidence is abundant.

Specifically in regards to prostate cancer, new research published in
the *International
Journal of Cancer* has shown that *gamma-tocotrienol, a cofactor found in
natural vitamin E preparations, actually kills prostate cancer stem cells*.
(4) As you would expect, these are the very cells from which prostate cancer
develops. They are or quickly become chemotherapy-resistant. And yet natural
vitamin E complex contains the very thing to kill them. Mice given
gamma-tocotrienol orally had an astonishing 75% decrease in tumor formation.
Gamma-tocotrienol also is effective against existing prostate tumors. (5,6)


- *Vitamin E reduces mortality by 24% in persons 71 or older.* Even
persons who smoke live longer if they take vitamin E. Hemila H, Kaprio J.
Age Ageing, 2011. 40(2): 215-220. January 17.
- *Taking 300 IU vitamin E per day reduces lung cancer by 61%.* (Mahabir
S, Schendel K, Dong YQ et al. Dietary alpha-, beta-, gamma- and
delta-tocopherols in lung cancer risk. Int J Cancer. 2008 Sep
further information: Vitamin E prevents lung cancer. Orthomolecular Medicine
News Service, Oct 29, 2008.
- *Vitamin E is an effective treatment for atherosclerosis.* Drs. Wilfrid
and Evan Shute knew this half a century ago. (1) In 1995, JAMA published
research that confirmed it, saying: “Subjects with supplementary vitamin E
intake of 100 IU per day or greater demonstrated less coronary artery lesion
progression than did subjects with supplementary vitamin E intake less than
100 IU per day.” (Hodis HN, Mack WJ, LaBree L et al. Serial coronary
angiographic evidence that antioxidant vitamin intake reduces progression of
coronary artery atherosclerosis. JAMA, 1995. 273:1849-1854.)
- *400 to 800 IU of vitamin E daily reduces risk of heart attack by
77%.* (Stephens
NG et al. Randomized controlled trial of vitamin E in patients with coronary
artery disease: Cambridge Heart Antioxidant Study (CHAOS). Lancet, March 23,
1996; 347:781-786.)http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/8622332
- *Increasing vitamin E with supplements prevents COPD* [Chronic
obstructive pulmonary disease, emphysema, chronic bronchitis] (Agler AH et
al. Randomized vitamin E supplementation and risk of chronic lung disease
(CLD) in the Women’s Health Study. American Thoracic Society 2010
International Conference, May 18, 2010.) Summary at
- *800 IU vitamin E per day is a successful treatment for fatty liver
disease.* (Sanyal AJ, Chalasani N, Kowdley KV et al. Pioglitazone,
vitamin E, or placebo for nonalcoholic steatohepatitis. N Engl J Med. 2010
May 6;362(18):1675-85.)http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20427778
- *Alzheimer’s patients who take 2,000 IU of vitamin E per day live
longer.* (Pavlik VN, Doody RS, Rountree SD, Darby EJ. Vitamin E use is
associated with improved survival in an Alzheimer’s disease cohort. Dement
Geriatr Cogn Disord. 2009;28(6):536-40.) Summary at

See also: Grundman M. Vitamin E and Alzheimer disease: the basis for
additional clinical trials. Am J Clin Nutr. 2000 Feb;71(2):630S-636S. Free
access to full text
- *400 IU of Vitamin E per day reduces epileptic seizures in children by
more than 60%.* (Ogunmekan AO, Hwang PA. A randomized, double-blind,
placebo-controlled, clinical trial of D-alpha-tocopheryl acetate [vitamin
E], as add-on therapy, for epilepsy in children. Epilepsia. 1989 Jan-Feb;
- *Vitamin E supplements help prevent amyotrophic lateral sclerosis
(ALS).* This important finding is the result of a 10-year-plus Harvard
study of over a million persons. (Wang H, O’Reilly EJ, Weisskopf MG, et al.
Vitamin E intake and risk of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis: a pooled
analysis of data from 5 prospective cohort studies. Am. J. Epidemiol, 2011.
173 (6): 595-602. March 15)
- *Vitamin E is more effective than a prescription drug in treating
chronic liver disease* (nonalcoholic steatohepatitis). Said the authors:
“The good news is that this study showed that cheap and readily available
vitamin E can help many of those with this condition.” Sanyal AJ, Chalasani
N, Kowdley KV et al. Pioglitazone, vitamin E, or placebo for nonalcoholic
steatohepatitis. N Engl J Med. 2010 May 6;362(18):1675-85.

What Kind of Vitamin E?

Which work best: natural or synthetic vitamins? The general debate might not
end anytime soon. However, with vitamin E, we already know. The best E is
the most natural form, generally called “mixed natural tocopherols and
tocotrienols.” This is very different from the synthetic form, DL-alpha
tocopherol. In choosing a vitamin E supplement, you should carefully read
the label… the entire label. It is remarkable how many natural-looking
brown bottles with natural-sounding brand names contain a synthetic vitamin.
And no, we do not make brand recommendations. Furthermore, OMNS has no
commercial affiliations or funding.

Unfortunately, that’s not the case with some authors of the negative vitamin
E paper. (3) You will not see this in the abstract at the JAMA website, of
course, but if you read the entire paper, and get to the very last page
(1556), you’ll find the “Conflict of Interest” section. Here you will
discover that a number of the study authors have received money from
pharmaceutical companies, including Merck, Pfizer, Sanofi-Aventis,
AstraZeneca, Abbott, GlaxoSmithKline, Janssen, Amgen, Firmagon, and
Novartis. In terms of cash, these are some of the largest corporations on
the planet.

Well how about that: a “vitamins are dangerous” article, in one of the most
popular medical journals, with lots of media hype … and the
pharmaceutical industry’s fingerprints all over it.
So How Much Vitamin E?

More than the RDA, and that’s for certain. A common dosage range for vitamin
E is between 200 and 800 IU/day. Some orthomolecular physicians advocate
substantially more than that. The studies cited above will give you a
ballpark idea. However, this is an individual matter for you and your
practitioner to work out. Your own reading and research, before you go to
your doctor, will help you determine optimal intake. If your doctor quotes a
negative vitamin study, then haul out the positive ones. You may start with
this article. There are more links to more information at
and http://orthomolecular.org/resources/omns/v06n25.shtml

And as for the old saw argument that supplement-users are supposedly dying
like flies, consider this: Over 200 million Americans take vitamin
supplements. So where are the bodies? Well, there aren’t any. There has not
been a single death from vitamins in 27 years.
Share that with your doctor as well. And with the news media.

*(Andrew W. Saul has been an orthomolecular medical writer and lecturer for
35 years. He received the Outstanding Health Freedom Activist Award from
Citizen’s for Health, and is the winner of three Empire State teacher
fellowships. Saul is author or coauthor of 10 books, four of which are with
Abram Hoffer, M.D..)*


1. http://orthomolecular.org/resources/omns/v01n01.shtml

2. Saul AW. Vitamin E: A cure in search of recognition. J Orthomolecular
Med, 2003. Vol 18, No 3 and 4, p 205-212. Free download at
html at http://www.doctoryourself.com/evitamin.htm
See also: Saul AW. Review of The vitamin E story, by Evan Shute. J
Orthomolecular Med, 2002. Volume 17, Number 3, Third Quarter, p 179-181.

3. Klein EA, Thompson Jr, IM, Tangen CM et al. JAMA.
as an example of many media spins:

4. Sze Ue Luk1, Wei Ney Yap, Yung-Tuen Chiu et al. Gamma-tocotrienol as an
effective agent in targeting prostate cancer stem cell-like population.
International Journal of Cancer, 2011. Vol 128, No 9, p 2182-2191.

5. Nesaretnam K, Teoh HK, Selvaduray KR, Bruno RS, Ho E. Modulation of cell
growth and apoptosis response in human prostate cancer cells supplemented
with tocotrienols. Eur. J. Lipid Sci. Technol. 2008, 110, 23-31.

6. Conte C, Floridi A, Aisa C et al. Gamma-tocotrienol metabolism and
antiproliferative effect in prostate cancer cells. Annals of the New York
Academy of Sciences, 2004. 1031: 391-4.
Also of Interest:

Vitamin E research ignored by major news media. Orthomolecular Medicine News
Service, May 25, 2010

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Fear?  Keep it at the edges.

Lately, everyone I come in contact with seems to be swimming in fear. And that worries me. Here is a simple but powerful way to shift your relationship with fear to allow for the possibility of peace.

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